Thursday, December 24, 2009
Merry Christmas!
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
All I want for Christmas
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Friday, December 11, 2009
Grateful for Moms!
I'm so thankful for both of our moms! They are both great examples to me of what Mothers should be. I hope I can grow up to be like both of them. I'm so grateful that they selflessly put their lives' on hold to come down and take care of ours and help us get through my recovery and Bracken's final weeks. We love you both!
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Kamri Girl
Bracken's mom, Denise, got Kamri dressed in pants. She took her pants off and put on a skirt. Then she went into my closet and found the red shoes. Top it off with my purse she found in the kitchen and she was ready for a photo shoot.
- Her tight squeeze hugs and random kisses. She'll just run up to you and kiss your leg or arm.
- How she makes a kissy noise after you say "I love you"
- She says "Dank you!" After you hand her something, no matter what it is, even if she didn't ask for it.
- Whenever she hands you something she says "er you go" (Here you go)
- She holds up her pointer finger (trying to do a thumbs up) and says "Deal!!"
- If she knows Bracken or I are getting ready to leave she'll find our shoes and follow us around to give us hugs goodbye.
- If she knows she is leaving she finds her shoes and points to her jacket until you put it on her.
- She is a good little eater, usually eats her meal and finishes up Hayes'.
- She goes down easy for naps as long as she has a book and some "wa-wa" (water)
- She repeats so many words we say and although it doesn't always sound like it, it impresses me that she trys. One of my favorites was Kangaroo. The only part that sounds remotely like it is the ending. "Dagange-ROO"
- She loves purses and will turn anything closing resembling a bag into one.
- She is always trying to put on more clothes, including Hayes' underwear over her clothes.
- She loves shoes, this morning before we left she had changed into three different pairs.
- She cries for Hayes if he isn't in the room when she wakes up
- Whatever Hayes does, she tries to do and gets frustrated when she can't.
- Hayes & Kamri play well together and give each other big hugs
- After we say prayers at night, Hayes gives Bracken a "huge, ginormous hug" and Kamri is always close behind with a doggy pile.
- She loves to jump off the endtable on to the couch. Really she likes to jump off most anything to someone which gets her in trouble sometimes when they aren't looking.
- She has now started to have an opinion about a few things and throws the full body, face-to-the-floor, screaming tantrum if she doesn't get her way.
- When Hayes says he needs to go potty and runs to the bathroom, she goes running behind him yelling "poop! poop!" and then wants to sit on the toilet, although unfortunately she hasn't figure out how to use it besides clog it with toilet paper.
- Her hip swinging and major bouncing whenever she hears music is hilarious and so cute.
- She waves to everyone and always says "bye-bye" to the cashiers at the store.
- Her smile! She melts me with it.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Thoughts & Feelings
I think I'm doing well. I have days where I can think of my baby Dane and feel happiness and go about the day. There are days I would just like to lay in bed, think of him, and cry. I'm realizing that there are things in life worth crying about...and often.
Right now its the little random things that are hard. Seeing others with their babies or pregnant women hasn't been hard. Going past the maternity department at the store really hurt. Three weeks earlier I would have stopped there just to see if there was anything that would make my growing belly look cute.
Opening the fridge to find my glucose drink for my gestational diabetes test at my next doctors visit was very hard. I hate that test, have complained about it often and now I wonder if I had even made it that much longer, maybe things would have turned out different. But those are the thoughts that get me in trouble, that hurt. What if I'd gotten the surgery doctors are recommending now, even though they weren't before. What if I had stayed by Dane's side and talked to him his whole short life. I remember reading that babies that young recognize their mothers voice, but can that stop bleeding in the brain? Did we make the right choice in letting him go peacefully? I have to stop these guilt ridden thoughts and remember that evening of November 19th. Holding my perfect, beautiful, tiny baby boy. Watching him slowly slip away, knowing even though I am his mother there was nothing I could do for him but hold him; While at the same time I was letting him go. Pure peace. That's what I felt that night and what I must remember in the dark moments of my grief.
It might seem odd that the memory of the moment of my son's death is what helps me most in grieving over losing him but that is exactly what helps. Holding him I felt love, peace, in fact joy. Ultimately I felt the spirit. Yes I was still sad and it was still hard...very hard but I made it through it and that night has changed my life forever.
So how am I now? I miss my baby Dane. I wish I could hold him, feed him, even change those nursing mustard poop diapers. I cry more easily, I have days that are hard, but don't we all. Dane's life and death has made me feel more love that ever before. Love for Dane, love for Hayes & Kamri and for Bracken. I have also never felt so much love from family, friends and even acquaintances. I am amazed at the outpouring our little family has received, every comment online, every card, phone call, text, call, visit or prayer has helped us in our grieving of Dane's death. Little Dane's life and death has taught me of God's love. I have never struggled with or grieved as intensely over anything else in my life but the love I have felt and Christs atonement have lessened my pain considerably. So although for now I don't really have an answer for how I'm doing, I know that slowly through time I'll be able to answer "good" or "Great!" without having to think about it first.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Sometimes you need a good laugh
Not only one but TWO screaming babies
Kamri's death grip
Xander with a scraped up face pretending to be Santa
Hayes sneaking a candy cane and realizing he's caught
Bracken & Mac smiling huge, Brooke and I are going to assume they were trying to be good examples but it just MIGHT have been because they were enjoying torturing their kids.
Santa unsure if he should put his hand on Hayes or not....aren't these normally a kid on the lap kind-of-pictures, not some awkward looking family picture??
The BEST part??..... somehow Brooke & I did not make it into the picture :)
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving
Bracken's jokes, even the ones that aren't funny. His Strength and his LOVE.
Hayes' giggles and teasing.
Kamri's non stop smiles and dancing.
All who have helped care for my kids while I can't...especially my Mom.
Friends; those who live close & far away, who I talk to often or not often enough. Those I've known my whole life or just met this last week. You have all touched my life for good in some way.
Modern Medicine that has helped bring three beautiful babies into my life, and gave me five beautiful days with the last one.
Prayers and Priesthood Blessings that have gotten me through hard times and blessed me when I needed it most.
The Temple, The blessing of an eternal family has hit home even more this year and a chance to learn more about our Heavenly Father.
I'm Grateful for:
Hot Showers that somehow make you feel so much better even when your insides have been ripped open, your world turned upside-down and your body turned into an unidentifiable mush.
Fabric: that can be turned into so many things to uplift, cheer and comfort.
Chocolate Chip Cookies & Milk: even if they don't turn out perfectly, I still eat them. Lost of them. So I can be grateful for how delicious they are, until I'm 30 (hopefully 40) and they start adding to my hips.
Books: I love reading them to learn and for enjoyment but right now I mostly just love reading them to my kids.
Music: for all the usual reasons and because right now any music Kamri hears she just starts swinging those hips and bouncing!
Pictures: Good ones, bad ones, happy and sad ones. It's always great to be able to look back and remember the good times and be happy you're not there anymore for the bad.
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Baby Dane's Funeral
Music “…together forever”
prepares our hearts,
our emotions---
Sweet prayer offered by Grandmother Ruth,
Tearful words of Aunt Brooke
Piano medley from Great-Grandmother Janice
sooth, comfort in saying farewell---
good-bye until another day.
Wise, peaceful words of Grandfather Dane
enhanced with song by the joined voices
of grandfather and great uncles.
All preparing for a courageous, loving father
to share his testimony, his counsel,
his grief.
A gentle bishop’s flowing tears
reach out to family and friends.
His testimony of hope, joy and peace
added to the father’s words
To help heal our tender hearts.
And paternal grandmother, Denise
ends in solemn, grateful prayer;
reminding again of our Father’s plan.
We leave this time of farewell,
of this memorial
with joy in our hearts ---
for the eternal tomorrow
by Charlotte Gentry Gwin
Our sweet baby Dane.
Family picture at the viewing
Friday, November 20, 2009
Families Are Forever
Dane P Longhurst was born at 9:22 a.m. on Sunday, November 15, 2009 at the Summerlin Hospital in Las Vegas, Nevada. At approximately 6:00 p.m. on November 19, 2009, after only four short days on this earth, Dane peacefully passed away in the arms of his loving mother. This is obviously difficult for us as his parents, but we have felt incredible strength in knowing the following truths:
First, Jesus Christ lives. That truth has been spoken an untold number of times by an untold number of people across the globe and through the centuries. The words alone, while powerful, pale in comparison to the testimony of that truth that burns warmly in our hearts. Jesus Christ came to earth, lived a perfect life, suffered for each of our pains, sorrows, and sins, died on the cross at Calvary, and defeated death through his resurrection. Because he took upon himself life after death, Dane too will live again. The reality of Dane’s future and immortal life through Christ’s power is not a vain hope, a false tradition, nor a naĂ¯ve belief; nor is Jesus Christ merely a legend, folklore, or influential historical figure. Jesus Christ is real and has all power necessary to fulfill God’s eternal plan.
Second, God established a perfect plan long before we came to Earth and the central purpose of that plan is our happiness. To obtain that perfect happiness that our Father wants us to enjoy, two things are required of us, 1) come to this earth and obtain a body, and 2) follow the Savior and fulfill his commandments. Baby Dane fulfilled both requirements and is now entitled to perfect happiness for the eternities. We can also obtain this perfect happiness together with our children if we will repent and become humble like our children. (Moroni 8:11). This promise is made possible by covenants we make in the temple.
Third, God will fulfill temple covenants. The sacred temple is a place where we make covenants with our Heavenly Father to do His will and He in return makes promises to us. One of the sweetest promises we receive in the temple is that families can be sealed together forever through eternal marriage. While worldly institutions have the power to marry “until death do you part,” God has given His power in the temple to marry for eternity. Because we have been sealed by the proper authority in the Holy Temple, we can live with Dane again. Having this promise is one of the many tender mercies that our Heavenly Father showers upon His children.
Fourth, God mercifully showers us with tender mercies to deliver us from our trials because He loves us perfectly. (1 Nephi 1:20). Words cannot express the tender mercies that God bestowed upon us in the few hours we had together with Dane. Those hours were so sweet and so perfect that every moment since has seemed to pull us back to the mortal realm. For a short time we felt higher than the mortal realm, we felt an immense peace, joy, happiness, and love. These feelings are the motivating forces that drive us forward in faith.
Finally, faith is a power that comes from spiritual actions and is felt deeply within our souls. We have made big and small decisions on a simple, yet profound feeling within our hearts, and the power of faith has grown within us. That simple feeling has come in answer to our prayers and the many others offered on our behalf. We are grateful for the prayers, thoughts, and support of so many people and their willingness to help.
Baby Dane's Obituary
Monday, November 16, 2009
More Pictures & an Update on Dane
I hope we'll have many more positive updates to put up in the months to come. It makes me sad thinking that Hayes & Kamri probably won't meet their sibling until he is a few months old...but I guess by then he will be the size of a normal baby so it won't seem that different to them. Anyway. I'm going to go to bed but I promised pictures and an update so here is part of an e-mail that Bracken sent out to our siblings tonight. He explains it alot better than I would have :)
Thanks again for all the prayers and words of encouragement. Bracken and I have been truely blessed to have little Dane in our lives. We'll keep you all updated.
Our Newest & Earliest Addition
Born November 15, 2009
9:22am
2 lbs 6oz
14 in
We left the cord to connect the camera to the computer at home. I got this one off of Bracken's iphone but I'll post more tonight once we get the cord.
I'll write more later also but just wanted to at least post one picture and thank everyone for their calls, texts, support and prayers. I have felt those prayers and realize that the calmness I feel about the whole situation is because of all of you who have prayed for us or offered your help.
Long story short I started bleeding Saturday night at 8. went to labor and delivery around 9:30 and was told I was also having contractions that I couldn't feel. Started feeling those contractions around midnight. Had an ultrasound with a specialist at 3am. Given medicine to stop contractions and told I could go home by 5 if they stopped. The medicine only helped for about a half hour. Gave me a second dose and the same thing. After lots of pain, an epiostomy (sp?), and finally an emergency c-section, Dane was born at 9:22am.
I got to see Dane for the first time this morning. (24 hours after he was born) What a little miracle. He is so tiny but I can't believe how perfect his little body is. Right now all his stats are looking good. I'm told it is a rollercoaster ride but we're happy that right now he is doing well and hope we can make it through all the hills and valleys to come.
Monday, November 9, 2009
Halloween
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Moon Trip
First you need the necessary gear, so of course they fashioned an astronaut suit.
They learned there is no gravity on the moon so you can jump REALLY high...and I'm not sure how Bracken was safe without a moon suit but Hayes didn't seem to mind that he was the only one so fashionable.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Yard Work
Halloween Projects

Our last Halloween project we made a little Halloween book. We were stuck inside all weekend because Hayes & Kamri were sick. Bracken had to work on a paper ALL day Saturday (we felt worse for him) and by Sunday I was dying to try and find something to entertain them both. Hayes loved deciding what to put in and Kamri loved paint the Jack-o-lanterns. Bracken joked we spent more time making it then they'll spend time looking at it. Which so far is true but at least they had fun making it and we had a peaceful Sunday evening so I'd call it a success.
Market Skirt
Oh I love her cute chubby belly!
